Anonymous asked: to the anon. some of us are just are not attracted to black men, like some black people aren't attracted to white people and vice versa. I, in no way believe that white race is "superior", it's just simply who I am attracted to.
I agree. However, that other anon had a point. I get a LOT of self-hate messages from women who hate black men just because. There isn’t anything wrong with preference, but there is something wrong with negative generalizations. And thats all imma say about the topic.
Anonymous asked: I am in an interracial relationship, but I find this entire movement of some black people openly chasing after white people as partners to be disturbing. You say your blog is not intended to be used for hate or racism, but some of the things I've read on here - things that people have asked - are definitely troubling and border on prejudice against and ignorance of black men (dare I say blackness in general?) and a borderline fetishization/worship of white men and whiteness.
I cannot regulate the questions that come into the inbox. I will agree that I get a lot of messages where women completely dismiss and disrespect black men. If you would take the time to read my responses, you would see that I don’t stand for that. There is no difference between white men and black men in general other than their skin color. There are both great and horrible white and black men. Personal experiences, such as my own might shape some of these women’s thoughts on black men, but I would hope it would not lead them to make dismissive and ignorant generalizations on a race of men. Black men are beautiful. This I do know. As are white men.
I run a LOT of blogs and they all have one inbox (fix that tumblr), so i spend my time filtering the crazy amount of things i get everyday. Some of them sadly go by the wayside. So i apologize for late publishing! Forgive me please.
That being said, please SUBMIT!!! Also, no pictures with alcohol or drugs will be published because i don’t want to offend any one of you guys. Also, please check the size of the photo before you submit. Those that are too small will not be published!
I want to begin by saying I appreciate and really enjoy this blog. Besides the fact that it’s fun to see all these pictures of adorable couples, it’s a great outlet for young women and men to see that interracial relationships are alive and well around the world. They’re just as natural and normal as any other relationships.
With that said, I want to comment on my own experiences with interracial relationships. My brother and I grew up in the south in a predominately white area in a nice middle class neighborhood. There was little to know diversity so with the exception of 1 or 2 people, we pretty much only knew white people. I’ve found myself attracted to guys of other races (mostly white) for a long time and never really understood why. Part of it probably had to do with the fact that I was surrounded by interracial couples. All of my cousins are either mixed or have white significant others; my dad is also mixed (German mom, black dad) so it definitely seemed natural enough to me.
Unfortunately, I was always VERY nervous around guys I had crushes on and basically thought they wouldn’t/didn’t find me attractive. I got shot down all the time and have had white guys tell me that they think black girls are ugly, and one guy referred to an interracial relationship as “jungle fever” (that one kind of hurt).
Although my self-esteem was damaged, I chalked this up to small town nonsense and went off to college. I met some fantastic people in college and had some great relationships. Most of the guys I met weren’t necessarily “into black girls” … we just clicked and things happened. That’s when I started to realize that it’s just about who you meet and who you’re comfortable with. Soon after that I met my fiance. :)
I know there are a ton of intelligent and loving black men out there. Unfortunately, the few black men I had interacted with in the past were not among that category and I continually felt out of my comfort zone. It’s not just about race though, it’s about the approach. If a guy is hooting and hollering at me from a distance (white, black, asian, hispanic, whatever …) and aggressively comes up to me with a bunch of nonsense, I’m not interested. That’s not my style and it makes me incredibly uncomfortable. Again and unfortunately, I have had many run-ins with the stereotypical guy that yells at you from afar and who can hardly speak proper English.
I guess my point is it’s not about finding guys that are “into black girls”. It’s about finding people that make you feel comfortable, whoever that person may be and whatever race he or she is. I’ve seen black, asian, and hispanic guys I thought were really cute; but I admit, I do have a stronger attraction to white men more than any other race. But, the people I’ve been with, I did not seek because they were white. Most I met by chance and we just seemed to get along well together, whether it was through music, movies, class, food, whatever. Sometimes it turned into something more, other times we were just friends.
So to all you girls and boys out there, be open-minded, meet new people, and find out who makes you comfortable.
How cute are we?
Chandler and I took some professional photos together and we had a blast! They came out great!